http://dailyjournalonline.com/ The latest news from the dailyjournalonline.com website! Newsys Template Engine /opinion/dear Abby/ http://backend.userland.com/rss 60 newsys--2143413386 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b6fb63028f13419837508.txt DEAR ABBY: My parents divorced when I was 6, and my father remarried when I was 8. My father got custody of my brother and me. A year later, my half-sister was born and that's when my stepmother began physically and mentally abusing me.  Mon, 8 Feb 2010 10:43:57 -0600 newsys--2143413387 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b6fb706636a0356995481.txt DEAR ABBY: When my three sons were small, I used to kiss them on the lips as a sign of affection. Now they are 13, 11 and 8, and it has been several years since I have done it. With the youngest, I can still get away with an occasional peck on the cheek -- but not my older boys. Mon, 8 Feb 2010 10:43:57 -0600 newsys--2143603538 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b6fb6a366805451552228.txt DEAR ABBY: I am a 16-year-old girl who is starting to seriously consider colleges and plan for the future. I found an amazing school close to home that I'd love to attend -- but there's a problem.  Mon, 8 Feb 2010 10:43:57 -0600 newsys--2143413385 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b6fb781c5aa7318180362.txt DEAR ABBY: Our oldest daughter is being married soon. When we pulled out our wedding album to show her our pictures, my mother-in-law, "Edith," started laughing and said she hoped our daughter's wedding would be better than ours was. Then she said our wedding had been "an embarrassment," and she wished she hadn't invited any of her friends to it! Mon, 8 Feb 2010 10:43:57 -0600 newsys-2138404690 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b69c2e5d4978269539530.txt DEAR ABBY: You missed an important clue in the letter from "Must Choose in Maryland" (Nov. 30), who is considering moving to improve her daughter's school life. Abby, the child is only 7. She has been in public school for three years, so the private school where she "flourished" was PRESCHOOL.  Thu, 4 Feb 2010 00:42:17 -0600 newsys-2140306180 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b69b74e6282d537468600.txt DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Harry," and I had a good marriage for 25 years, but we have grown apart and have agreed to divorce when our child finishes college. We just don't have a lot in common anymore. Harry is on the road a lot, and I have my own business. Wed, 3 Feb 2010 12:02:43 -0600 newsys-2142642493 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b69b70460bd1067897542.txt DEAR ABBY: Shortly before my wedding, I decided to have my teeth fixed. The dentist quoted me a price of $4,000, which my husband and I could not afford since we were paying for our entire wedding. Wed, 3 Feb 2010 12:02:42 -0600 newsys-2136632646 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b67258e963e5143611819.txt DEAR ABBY: We had a repairman in our home yesterday who needed to leave to go to the hardware store for a part. My wife told him: "I have to go to pick up my son, so here's my spare key. Let yourself back in." Mon, 1 Feb 2010 13:12:17 -0600 newsys-2136746125 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b61c69767c47666707419.txt DEAR ABBY: When my partner and I eat at a restaurant, the server often clears my partner's plate before I am finished. I am not a slow eater, but I generally finish after she does. Sun, 31 Jan 2010 04:08:11 -0600 newsys-2133537907 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b61c65b3f5b8867803608.txt DEAR ABBY: My parents just aren't "there" for me anymore. I need to be able to go to them for advice, but now I can't. They get mad when I ask them for help on anything. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I mean, I cook, clean, help around the house, but it doesn't seem to help. Sat, 30 Jan 2010 00:53:16 -0600 newsys-2123035560 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b61c3acae60d781218737.txt DEAR ABBY: My 31-year-old son, "Joey," who needs a heart transplant, almost died a few weeks ago. The doctors told us he wouldn't make it through the weekend. I was beside myself. On what we thought was his deathbed, I told Joey I would give him anything he wanted if he pulled through. He wanted a very expensive sports car. Fri, 29 Jan 2010 09:12:03 -0600 newsys-2120865520 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b61c34dac16f140095838.txt DEAR ABBY: I am in my early 40s, and married with two daughters. I have a friend, "Sally," whom I have known since the third grade. We are like sisters. Thu, 28 Jan 2010 11:09:30 -0600 newsys-2119536461 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b5fd98d059a5005476899.txt DEAR ABBY: I am a 16-year-old girl and I fight with my mother almost daily. It makes me sad and upset all the time, and I don't know what to do. The last fight we had was over something so dumb I don't even know why I dragged it out for so long. I said things I didn't mean -- things that were hurtful and cruel. Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:16:54 -0600 newsys-2119536460 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b5fd8bd343bd407568764.txt DEAR ABBY: I had to respond to "Blushing in San Francisco" (Nov. 21), the 11-year-old girl who's embarrassed because her mother sings and dances in the mall. I was that mother a few years ago. Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:16:54 -0600 newsys-2121318889 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b5dafbe97c53255548235.txt DEAR ABBY: My mother is a spry, 75-year-old woman who has expressed an unusual request. She has told us "kids" that when she is called by the angels, she wants to be dressed in an aqua nightgown or PJs, and to be lying on her side. She says she will be sleeping for a long time, and she wants to make sure she's comfortable. She also says if we don't carry out her wishes, she will come back and haunt us. Mon, 25 Jan 2010 08:51:10 -0600 newsys-2121699311 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b5daf617a140578825972.txt DEAR ABBY: I have chosen to celebrate my children's birthdays with family and one friend. I want my children to understand early on that birthdays are not about getting loads of gifts, but to celebrate life with family. We are invited to many parties for their friends and classmates, but I have always chosen to attend only those of our close friends. Mon, 25 Jan 2010 08:51:10 -0600 newsys-2118540904 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b5a922224a00812650724.txt DEAR ABBY: Last Sunday, I attended a church service, and the woman and her adult daughter seated behind me would not shut their mouths. All I could hear was the two of them catching up on the week's gossip. The 5-year-old granddaughter also talked the whole time. Sat, 23 Jan 2010 04:08:28 -0600 newsys-2117817483 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b58bc889ec1b244008097.txt DEAR ABBY: I wrote you in October and received your personal reply. I'm the girl whose dad was murdered, and I was looking for a support group. You referred me to the National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children, which provides mutual support to persons who have survived the violent death of someone close (www.pomc.org). Fri, 22 Jan 2010 08:24:45 -0600 newsys-2116435127 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b587f363880e580317552.txt DEAR ABBY: "Happy Being Me in Massachusetts" (Nov. 20) is a large girl whose mother told her "heavy women are not desirable." Well, I was a size 18/20 and weighed more than 200 pounds when I met my husband while out with mutual friends. He's good-looking, smart, witty, affectionate and passionate. He's everything a woman looks for in a life partner. Thu, 21 Jan 2010 10:23:48 -0600 newsys-2108269351 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b5737acc07b5229508194.txt DEAR ABBY: I have always been a curious and motivated person. Because of it, I pursued higher education and became a college professor. Most of my siblings have also gone to college. However, their significant others have varying levels of education. Wed, 20 Jan 2010 11:05:38 -0600 newsys-2111857361 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b5632b26241a592882819.txt DEAR ABBY: I rent my own apartment and my family lives an hour's drive away. My boyfriend of one year, "Mac," lives about 10 minutes from me and spends the night a few times a week and vice-versa. Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:31:40 -0600 newsys-2113144901 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b56326bf3f0d726747506.txt DEAR ABBY: I have been working at my current job for a couple of years. One of my co-workers, who is in another department and who I see a couple of times a week, calls me "Sue." My name is "Joyce." Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:31:40 -0600 newsys-2107823772 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b46100604b3d593046819.txt DEAR ABBY: After an on-again off-again affair with a married man for almost 10 years, our relationship finally ended today.  Sun, 17 Jan 2010 04:07:54 -0600 newsys-2107851573 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b460f8e67135453603056.txt DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Jana," and I have been married 15 years. She's the love of my life. I can't imagine living without her. We have three beautiful children, successful careers and a nice home. We have a great relationship, and I trust her completely. Sat, 16 Jan 2010 04:08:01 -0600 newsys-2105473824 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b460f172b29b307623590.txt DEAR ABBY: I am 27 and have been a vegetarian for five years. I am trying to develop a thick skin when it comes to people who question or make fun of my choice, but I'm tired of laughing and letting the comments "roll off" my back. Fri, 15 Jan 2010 09:41:15 -0600 newsys-2103241872 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b460eccd05e4404443771.txt DEAR ABBY: Our son, "Sam," is a senior in high school and has chosen a college that will suit his major. Now, all of a sudden, his girlfriend, "Amanda," has decided she wants to attend the same school. We'd like to discourage it because we know she's only going there to be close to our son. We feel she needs to get out on her own as much as Sam does. Thu, 14 Jan 2010 10:42:17 -0600 newsys-2101169639 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b460e57db5b6331979329.txt DEAR ABBY: I'm at my wit's end at work. There's a woman in her early 30s here who is out of the closet, and very vocal about being a butch lesbian. I'm straight, happily married and 20 years older than she is.  Wed, 13 Jan 2010 10:34:00 -0600 newsys-2100692786 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b460dc74616f684099004.txt DEAR ABBY: I'm writing about "Not Nosy, Just Concerned" (Nov. 13), the neighbor who suspects the woman she sees entering "John" and "Marcia's" house is having an affair with John while Marcia sleeps. There is another scenario to consider, and it is, perhaps, the biggest reason "Nosy" should keep hers out of it. It is entirely possible that Marcia is fully aware and willingly participating in the after-hours visits of the "tart." Tue, 12 Jan 2010 10:40:45 -0600 newsys-2097306232 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b460d63b4ecb350501813.txt DEAR ABBY: When we were younger, my sister, "Patti," and I made a pact to be each other's maid of honor. It was Patti's suggestion, and we both thought I would soon marry my then-boyfriend. It didn't happen. Mon, 11 Jan 2010 08:03:03 -0600 newsys-2094965640 http://dailyjournalonline.com/articles/2010/02/09//opinion/dear_abby//doc4b460d1f4c16f307183769.txt DEAR ABBY: My husband constantly leers at women. He bases many of his choices on the "best views" available for girl watching: his seat in a restaurant, where he parks to pick up the kids from high school, seats at sporting events that are close to the cheerleaders, even TV shows that feature cute blondes -- the scantier clad the better. Sun, 10 Jan 2010 04:07:52 -0600