For some, choosing attendants can be a grueling process. For others the decision was made way before the choice of a groom. My decision was a little of both.
The choice of Maid/Matron of Honor was made long ago, back when my older sister, Patsy, would let me follow her around everywhere. I am not a person who likes change, so why would I deviate from my past by not following my big sister down the aisle. My sister has been my pretend mommy, doctor, bodyguard, conscience, whipping girl and mentor. My mother says Patsy wanted to play with me like a doll the day I came home. From then on I wasn’t just the younger sister, I was also her baby. She was always there to pick me up when I fell down and doctor any wounds I might have gotten. Patsy always protected me from the bullies in the neighborhood. She would let me know when I was doing something wrong, take punishment for it if I got caught, and then let me know how I could have made it right. Patsy is not only my big sister but is also one of my best friends. She will now play the role in my wedding that I was too young to play in hers, Matron of Honor, and I know she will wear the title well. Patsy’s youngest son, Jacob (a.k.a. Cobby), will be the ring bearer, if he’s in an agreeable mood on the day of the wedding.
I have known for more than half my life who one of my bridesmaids was going to be, Thera. I was 10 when my sister married and my parents and I moved to St. Francois County. I was lost for a little while without my sister but soon had a friend who didn’t fill Patsy’s place but made a new one all her own. Thera wasn’t the sister I missed so much as a new sister, one I needed just the same. Thera and I did everything together and I don’t think I could have made it through the chaotic middle school or the treacherous high school years without her. I spent half of my eighth grade year away from her and it was the worst year ever. Thera and I made a pact when we were reunited to never let circumstances separate us again. We haven’t yet and we won’t ever let anything come between us again. Unlike most friends we have never had a major fight and though we don’t agree on everything our respect and love for each other overcomes our differences. Throughout high school Thera and I were together whenever possible. We rode to school together, ate lunch and took classes together. My favorite times with her were spent in Mr. Hassell’s Concert and Swing Choir class. After high school we wanted to make sure that nothing was going to keep us apart so we set a date night. One night a week for the last seven years we have had a weekly date, sometimes other friends have come along and most recently significant others but the constant remains the same. Nothing will separate us. Therefore, it is only right that she be a bridesmaid on the most important day of my life.
Janna, Jared’s sister, will also be one of my bridesmaids because weddings are not only about bringing two people together but also bringing two families together. Through my marriage to Jared I will be gaining a plethora of new relations. Besides the new mother and father-in-law I am most excited about my new sister, because a girl can never have too many sisters. Janna, who from the beginning has accepted me into the family has agreed to be one of my bridesmaids. Janna is the sweetest, most loving person I think I know and I can’t wait to share my and Jared’s wedding day with her. Janna has become more than Jared’s sister over the years, she has also become my friend. Like my own sister Janna has often been there for me when I needed her and I hope I have returned the favor. Janna and her husband Jason’s beautiful daughters, Janson and Jacey are also going to share in this special day by being my flower girls. Janna has shared her daughters with me from the moment Janson was born and has always treated me as if I were already their aunt.
The choice for my final bridesmaid was one of my co-workers and closest friend, Jessica. Jessica has become an integral part of my life over the years of my employment at the Daily Journal. Not only do we work side-by-side day-by-day, but often get together on weekends and holidays. Jessica might not have known me since I was young but she still knows me well enough. Jessica will often bring me random items that she picked up for me here or there and I always love them, (not just saying that). Jessica is also helping me with most of the planning, she is one of those people who has to have a list, and who immediately starts to cross things off. She’s someone whose opinion I know will always be her own and she will always give it to me straight.
I have faith that my four sisters, though different will pull together and stand at my side no matter what. Thanks girls. I love you one and all.
Lisa Malone is a staff writer for the Daily Journal and can be reached by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 573-431-2010 ext. 177. She is sharing her wedding plans with our readers.